We all know the signs: the screaming, crying, red faces and tears. The almighty temper tantrum. Preschool years are fraught with them and it knocks parents off guard because they’re unsure of how to respond. That’s why we wrote this for you.

Know this: Preschoolers are emotional

Children are learning how to handle their emotions from an early age and play is the best way of expressing them. But just like every other human, they’re vulnerable to frustration and don’t know how to deal with it, other than scream it out.

Tantrums happen regularly between 1-3 years and will subside after the child turns four when they know how to express themselves better.

What causes tantrums?

As we said above, emotions play a critical factor. Children will let their displeasure be known if they feel:

• Stressed from hunger, tiredness, or too much stimulation
• Unable to cope with a situation such as bullying or a toy boing taken away
• Emotions like anger

What can I do?

First thing, don’t get angry or frustrated in turn. This just amps up the tantrum. Stay calm or distance yourself from your child until the tantrum has run its course.

Another thing to do is meet them with empathy. Understand what’s making them upset, whether it’s another child picking on them or something as simple as the music being too loud. In the latter case, take them away from that environment.

Find out what you can about why the tantrum happened in the first place so you can avoid triggers. Speak with your son or daughter about what made them upset.

Another way to cope with tantrums is to ignore the bad behaviour but reward the good. Children crave attention and will take note of what you respond to. It’s difficult but walking away from them will show that throwing a tantrum isn’t the way to get your time or praise.

Children are naturally happy at home and at preschool; so when they suddenly change, you know something’s wrong. Though the idea of children acting as bullies is absurd to some, it’s actually nothing new and must be tackled early. We have some articles detailing what parents can do, whether their child is either victim or instigator.

Parent guide to helping children manage conflict, aggression and bullying

Australian Psychological Society

As a parent you want to do everything you can to protect your child from harm. But what if they’re the ones victimizing other kids at preschool? The Australian Psychological Society looks at both sides of the coin and has advice for children showing aggressive behaviour, how to handle bullying and the best way to proceed with conflict resolution.

Bullying at preschool: helping your child

Raising Children Network

Raising Children is one of the most trusted authorities in parenting, so it’s natural they’d have information about this topic. They have advice on how to involve the staff at the preschool as well as what to do when the bullying doesn’t stop. They point out the results from taking these steps won’t happen overnight, but they’re a good start to stopping a problem before it continues.

How to handle preschool bullies

Parenting.com

A three-year-old? A three-year-old bully? Yes, they do exist, and this article by Parenting sets the record straight: you’re not too young to be a bully. Even at preschool. From listing the signs to preventative measures, Deborah Carpenter goes in-depth to help readers understand what’s happening so they can stop the bullying before any real harm occurs.

Bullying happens everywhere, no matter how old the person is or what type of environment they’re in. Educators do their best to make sure children always use their manners and include others in activities. Daycare/preschool is where children learn crucial behaviours and understand that even though someone’s appearances and opinions are different, that’s no reason to act like a bully.

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Inquiry, collaboration, and an emphasis on process-based learning are at the heart of the STREAM approach.  Utilising and leveraging the integrity of the arts themselves is essential to an authentic STREAM initiative.

Art education allows students to learn things in a more open-ended way and make them applicable to real life.  Arts and creativity are crucial to science, technology and computer science. They are the tools that allow technology to be usable in real life!  Arts are used in website and user interface design, advertising, product design and usability, branding and start up creation among countless others, all things are crucial to STREAM learning.

So STREAM education is crucial to educate and prepare the next generation.

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Written By Mala Kumar

Eskay Kids Capalaba