Communicating with your children, post-daycare
Children in daycare are still learning how to communicate properly. Their grammar is developing (missing articles like ‘the’, ‘a’ and ‘to’ are common) but they can communicate their wants and needs effectively. Here are some tips to help them along after you pick them up from daycare. Children are always learning, after all.
Kids want to chat
Curiosity keeps the kids going! It drives them during their daily activities. They’ll read books, arrange loose parts to see how they fit together and pick flowers out of the yards.
When you pick them up after your day, there are two things that will happen. Your son or daughter will be really chatty, or really tired. If it’s the former, they’ll be bursting to tell you about their exciting day. And that brings us to the next point.
Ask them real questions
Open-ended questions are the best approach. Also, do your best to avoid generic questions like ‘how was your day?’. Here are some examples you can try next time you’re driving home;
- What was your favourite part of playtime today?
- What was your favorite thing at lunch?
- What books did you read?
- Did you make anything with your friends today?
- Did you do anything fun with your teacher?
Bonus tip; point number two can help you pack something different if they didn’t like what’s in their lunchbox. You don’t want them to spend their time in daycare with something they don’t want to eat.
Give them real answers
Children ask questions. ‘Why’ is going to be heard a lot in your household! This will happen when you give a ‘no’ answer to a request, like if they can go outside and play.
If you don’t know the answer to what your child is asking, say ‘Let’s Google it together’ and read the answer aloud to them. You’re bonding and learning something new all in one go.
Watch their body language
Children use body language more than words because the latter is still developing. As their example, it’s important for you to use gestures, facial expressions, and other body languages in your interactions with them. If your child can’t verbalize what they want, but you can guess, ask them a question.
Most of what people say and mean is communicated through body language rather than words. But the latter is just as important. Watch your son or daughter closely, ignoring outside distractions even in the car. If they don’t want to talk, they’ll be tired or restless as opposed to enthusiastic.