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More tips for raising confident kids

Not long ago we posted an article on how to raise confident kids at any age, whether they be in kindergarten or big school. Confident kids blossom into young people who get through challenges and learn valuable life lessons.

 

Let them make mistakes

Young children who are preschool age are more resilient than you think. How many scraped knees have you patched up, only for your son or daughter to go running back outside with a big grin on their face?

Don’t swoop in to rescue your child when they make a small mistake. They’ll learn. You won’t be there to hold their hand all the time and fix things. Mistakes always happen no matter their age. In preschool, they walk through the house with muddy feet. When they’re a teenager they’ll forget to fill up the car with petrol. Let your son or daughter make mistakes. Remind them not to do it again (gently). And they’ll remember.

 

Moderate social media

We live in a digital age where children are exposed to more screens than ever. It’s commonplace to see a four-year-old with an iPad instead of a book. Granted, sometimes it’s the only way to distract an unsettled child when you need to concentrate. But lock the Facebook feature so they can only play educational/fun games instead.

Capping their exposure to social media use is a responsible measure. Body image and life satisfaction issues are on the rise among young people, some of them as young as primary-school-age.

 

Ask them to contribute

You do a lot of jobs around the house when the kids are at school or watching television. Sometimes they might even want to help you, but more often they get in your way.

Don’t brush them off, though. Raising a confident child involves giving them (age appropriate) responsibilities. Phrase it like:

‘You would help me very much if you picked up your toys when you’re done.’

Positive reinforcement works

When you selectively praise certain behaviour, your child knows they’ve done a good job and will keep doing it well. Thank them for being on their best behavior in public. Same for putting their toys away or making the bed.

 

Keep up the cuddles

Everyone needs human contact, especially children. Even when you’re busy, give your child a cuddle. It’ll make you both feel good at the end of a long day.

Tips you need to know for raising confident kids

Encouragement makes everyone smile, kids and adults alike. As a parent you want your son or daughter to grow into a confident young person who can take on any challenge that comes their way. Eskay child care centres do their part by following the Early Years Learning Framework ‘Building Confident Learners’. At home and outside of child care, there’s some things you can do to build up your child for the better.

 

Compliment with care

Of course parents want to say ‘good job’ and shower their son or daughter with praise. Repeating the same thing over and over, however, does more harm than good because it loses meaning.

Be specific in the compliments you hand out to your child. If they give you a drawing, comment on how nice the colours are. When they’re at the playground and climb something to the top, tell them you’re impressed with their effort.

There’s a difference between compliments and gratitude. The latter is for when your child has done something you asked them and done it well (or without complaint). A simple ‘thank you’ after setting the table or making their bed is enough to make them feel good about completing a task.

 

Nurture their interests

Everyone has hobbies no matter their age. Your child might like sports, drama, or arts. One way of nurturing this interest is enrolling them in extra-curriculars. There’s plenty of clubs you can find on the internet, whether it be for jiu jitsu or violin lessons. When your child works towards a goal and achieves it at the end of the term (if the club has one) their confidence will skyrocket!

 

Be their example

Children look to their parents for guidance; you’re their number one role model. As a parent, you want to be strong all the time but it doesn’t always work out that way. It actually does your child good to show emotion. Sometimes you get frustrated and cry but don’t shy away from it. Emotions are a natural part of being human.

 

Involve them in decisions

This shows your son or daughter that you trust their opinion. Thumbs up from Mum or Dad equals confidence and head held high! Let them pick out what they want to wear to school. Ask them what cereal is better when you’re roaming the supermarket. Let them pick up the box and put it in the trolley. When that’s done you can ask them what they want in their lunchbox, so long as it’s healthy.

 

Perfection is overrated

Practice makes perfect and you should let your son or daughter know that when they feel as if they failed at something. Even if it’s just a cake that didn’t turn out ‘perfectly’ round, point out the good qualities. It might not be a circle, but it’s still delicious!

 

We have more advice here:

9 activities for active children after daycare

Kindergarten and beyond: teaching values and discipline