Tips you need to know for raising confident kids
Encouragement makes everyone smile, kids and adults alike. As a parent you want your son or daughter to grow into a confident young person who can take on any challenge that comes their way. Eskay child care centres do their part by following the Early Years Learning Framework ‘Building Confident Learners’. At home and outside of child care, there’s some things you can do to build up your child for the better.
Compliment with care
Of course parents want to say ‘good job’ and shower their son or daughter with praise. Repeating the same thing over and over, however, does more harm than good because it loses meaning.
Be specific in the compliments you hand out to your child. If they give you a drawing, comment on how nice the colours are. When they’re at the playground and climb something to the top, tell them you’re impressed with their effort.
There’s a difference between compliments and gratitude. The latter is for when your child has done something you asked them and done it well (or without complaint). A simple ‘thank you’ after setting the table or making their bed is enough to make them feel good about completing a task.
Nurture their interests
Everyone has hobbies no matter their age. Your child might like sports, drama, or arts. One way of nurturing this interest is enrolling them in extra-curriculars. There’s plenty of clubs you can find on the internet, whether it be for jiu jitsu or violin lessons. When your child works towards a goal and achieves it at the end of the term (if the club has one) their confidence will skyrocket!
Be their example
Children look to their parents for guidance; you’re their number one role model. As a parent, you want to be strong all the time but it doesn’t always work out that way. It actually does your child good to show emotion. Sometimes you get frustrated and cry but don’t shy away from it. Emotions are a natural part of being human.
Involve them in decisions
This shows your son or daughter that you trust their opinion. Thumbs up from Mum or Dad equals confidence and head held high! Let them pick out what they want to wear to school. Ask them what cereal is better when you’re roaming the supermarket. Let them pick up the box and put it in the trolley. When that’s done you can ask them what they want in their lunchbox, so long as it’s healthy.
Perfection is overrated
Practice makes perfect and you should let your son or daughter know that when they feel as if they failed at something. Even if it’s just a cake that didn’t turn out ‘perfectly’ round, point out the good qualities. It might not be a circle, but it’s still delicious!
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